Why I'm never going to be mother of the year
And why I don’t want to be.
We have cereal for dinner about once a week.
An assortment of McDonald’s and Kraft Mac and Cheese other nights.
Throw in some soup or fried rice and that’s our menu for the week.
I lose my temper with Nettie. I yell at her and have to apologize for it later.
I wash the colors and whites together.
All these things and many more are reasons I will never be THAT mom. The one that we’re all told we’re SUPPOSED to be. Well you know what? THAT mom can suck it. I need my wine at night. I need to yell at my kids. I need to vent on my blog. I need sanity. And this is how I get it. Nettie is slowly torturing me and I think she actually enjoys it. I find myself saying at least once a week that I don’t know how I’m going to raise her. Thank God I have Hubs and other family involved in this process because if I was doing it alone I fear she’d be worse. I spoil her. I make rules and once they’re broken, there is no punishment for it. I reward her with toys or treats even if she was mouthing off an hour before.
I SUCK AT THIS most times.
I know I’m doing something right though when it’s quiet at night and it’s just me and her in her bedroom. When I’m tucking her in at night and she tells me she loves me and thanks me for making her her favorite soup and letting her watch her favorite movie. When she hugs me and kisses me 3 times in a row and tells me she loves me. When she tells me she’s going to pray for me that God always helps me and protects me. When she tells me she loves her baby sister and is always going to look out for her. It’s those moments that tell me that somewhere along the line I’m doing something right. She may give me a run for my money, but she’s so sweet, so sincere. I could not be more grateful for the awesome world of blogging and twitter. I have met so many great moms who are like me…don’t have an f’ing clue what they’re doing either. And yet we all survive. We all make it.
12 Responses to Why I'm never going to be mother of the year
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There are days when I yell, get mad, feel like a total failure and yet my sweet little Maya has a way of making me feel like I’m some still doing something right. Kids are good at that I think.
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I do not think you give youself enough credit.
I love my mom – she raised 4 kids all alone after pa died. She retires in a few years. She needs the break.
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Well. You’re obviously doing *something* right. Whatever works for your family. Those bedtime moments are so sweet.
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Oh. I love that you are non-traditional mom. I have so many friends who have become “those” moms who are all organic and Baby Motzart and can’t discuss anything other than latest trend of a communal bed. PLEASE.
Being a mom who loves your kids and raised them right is the most imoportant thing.
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Amen sister. It is so nice to live in a country where we are free to do what works for our family. (within reason of course)
It’s too bad so many people can’t just sit back and enjoy each others differences and maybe learn something rather than being judgey and negative. Anywho, I lurves you and you are a fabulous mama, you can’t trick me.
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becks, you are a great mom… but the whole rule breaking and then basically rewarding her for shitty behavior… you are going to create a monster. it is fucking hard to make rules and stick to them, but you HAVE too cause the lord knows a CHILD isn’t going too. she has to have structure and discipline, or before you know, she’s going to walk all over you and not respect you.
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Having a clue is totally overrated. And? Those moms are so freaking borrrrrring. Love you for who are. Always.
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you are a great mom and you do the best you can!! everyone learns as they go–there is no real pro at parenthood, no matter what age you are when you have kids. Its ok to “spoil” so to say….just dont over do it where she becomes to hard to rein in. She needs to get a grip on respect and that lying is not ok. Its all a learning process. She will get it. You and Hubs are good people surrounded by good people. It would be different if u all were crackwhores or something.
luv u
PACO IS AWESOME
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Congratulations for being a normal mom (and welcome to the ranks). lol
Those super moms and not having nearly as much fun as we are. They’re too busy cleaning.
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I prefer your kind of mothering… those anal retentive types make me jumpy and I’m pretty much a slacker, so I need it mellow.
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Man, you are a bad mom!!
Your kids love you and you they are whole and healthy and happy – yeah that sounds like the makings of a terrible mother to me
You are doing great! You know the areas that you are weak and knowing is half the battle. All we can do is our best and forgive ourselves for our mistakes. I figure that as long as we do slightly better than our parents (less yelling, less hitting, better food choices, whatever), then we are a success.
I personally want to be the perfect mom, but as much as I want it, I know that it will never happen, so I need to love myself for doing my best and leave it at that!!
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You totally do not suck at this. First of all, don’t fret about what you’re making your kids for dinner – the most important thing is that you’re feeding them! I’m sure all kids frustrate their parents and sometimes this leads to yelling. As far as mixing colors & white, you have girls so if you mix reds and whites you’ll get pink which I’m sure they love.
Sounds like you’re a great mom and your kids love you!
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