My Blackberry- My Social Life
Hubs has no problem telling me that I’m way too sucked into my phone. I sometimes feel bad about this because I realize that when I’m home with my family that I don’t see all day I’m probably on my phone for about an hour or so total on and off chatting with my friends via Twitter or BBM chat. I try to explain it like this to him though:
He sees his friends at work daily or at least monthly. Somehow they all bump into eachother or they plan something. They’re all friends he sees. He doesn’t consider my online friends real friends in most circumstances unless we’ve hung out in person and have spent real time together. For example, he considers Jennster a real friend and not an online friend because we’ve spent lots of time together every summer and we went to her wedding and other trips together. I hate that that’s the bar he’s set though- that they’re only real friends and not online friends if we’ve met and hung out. While I adore Jennster and my other friends from our message board that I actually see, it doesn’t mean that the other friends I have aren’t real. They ARE real. And I love them all. I don’t have many friends I see “in real life”. I have work friends. But after I get off work I’m going home to see my family. It’s easier to maintain my online friendships because I can type a message and then get back to my kids. There are no happy hours after work…weekend get togethers…things that take up time. Now granted, I totally enjoy seeing my IRL friends. I love them all too and we have a great time together…WHEN we get together. My life is VERY busy. We do A LOT with family and if not that, then Hannah has dance or we have other obligations. We usually have plans every weekend and my evenings at home are reserved for my kids and Hubs most nights. I like it this way. My online friends are right there with me in my purse or pocket. I can be at Hannah’s dance comps and when she’s not dancing, be tweeting or chatting with my friends. I like that option. I talk to them a lot more than anyone else because we’re constantly connected.
When I’m with family or big events, I’m not tweeting. I’m not texting or bbm’ing. I do devote my time to my family and I refuse to be rude. I have to clear that up. But if I’m just at home and we’re watching TV…or I’m grocery shopping…or stuck in traffic- I can be with my friends.
Hubs sometimes complains that I’m too into my phone…but he doesn’t get that my phone IS my social life. I’m not out on the weekends with the girls. I’m not doing happy hour with co workers. It’s all I got most times.
And hey, I’m not complaining.
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I text a lot with my real life friends and a few online friends. I tweet here and there when I am out, but my huge vice is facebook. Yesterday my trainer yelled at me because I was facebooking while on the elliptical machine. I see your husband’s point. I feel ignored when someone is constantly on the phone or pda when we are at dinner or hanging out. It is rough balance.
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I get both sides of this debate. I have an online life that’s important to me, too. However, spending quality, uninterrupted time with family is equally as important. I wonder if you can come up with a compromise … only use the phone after the girls are asleep or while they’re watching TV or whatever it is so that the time you do spend with them is focused only on them?
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I get both sides of this story. Allie spends alot of time on her phone…but sometimes I find myself doing the same thing too. I never feel like I’m lacking attention or that she spends TOO much time on her phone, but the times I want extra attention, all I have to do is tell her.
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i’m still like that we were friends way before we ever used the internet
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I’m that way about my laptop.
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i’m the only REAL fake friend you have. HAHAHAHHAHA.. he doesn’t get it because he doesn’t do it. it makes to think that BEFORE we all met eachother, that he most likely didn’t consider me a real friend either- but the whole point if MEETING EACHOTHER was BECAUSE we considered eachother friends! you know?!?!?! lol
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I’m a BB girl too but I haven’t really gotten into the messenger portion. I do love me some Ubertwitter. My weekends are slower on the social media front because we are active then. But during the week when my time is dedicated to work, my mommy duties and just getting through, it’s nice to have that break to check in with people I have relationships with through social media. I get it….
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I love my blackberry… bbming, checking facebook… email… it’s tragic, but true!
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Yeah, my IRL friend calls my twitter/blogger friends my “invisible” friends. Until we all went to Vegas and hung out, now there opaque. Cause y’all arent exactly visible all the time, just sometimes.
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I am very into my BB too. I was definitely obsessed for the first few weeks. I don’t mess with it much while I’m at home though. But after Lady H has gone to bed I spend sometimes hours on the computer. I read blogs, update my blog, play games. The boyfriend is pretty understanding. But I do make an effort to step away and hang out with just him too.
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Sometimes I feel like my only friends live within the walls of my computer. I talk to you all more than I talk to people in real life. LOL
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