To snip or not to snip- that is the question.
Hubs and I have decided that our family is complete. That means no more babies. He’s 30 and I’m 28. We both said that once we get into our 30s we wanted to be done having kids and spend the time focusing on raising the kids we had already. When I was having Livie, my 2nd c section baby, my doctor asked me if I wanted to get my tubes tied. That was not a good time to ask me. Here I was about to deliver the child that lived in me. The child I felt inside of me for months. The child we already loved so much. And we all know how much I love being pregnant. So in my state of weepy-ness and my deliriousness (is that a word?) thinking that this could not be the final time I ever feel this again, I said no. No. Because we HAVE to have more. This can’t be it.
Well that was before I spent every night from that night up until THE PRESENT as in NOW never sleeping a whole night again. Livie STILL does not sleep all night. That was before our checkbook was in the minus more than a few times because we’re learning to RE-budget STILL after adding a person to our financial situation. That was before I thought about paying for private school for TWO children…let alone 3. Or 4. *faints*
That was before we realized that the love we have for our 2 kids and the love our 2 kids have for us is enough.
So I told Hubs he needs to get the snip done. Everytime I mention that to him, he shudders and cringes. Although progress has been made. Whereas before when I mentioned it, he would say “absolutely not, no way in hell, you should have gotten your tubes tied”—NOW he says “I need to be knocked out…you should have gotten your tubes tied.” To which I reply “I was sliced open through MANY layers of flesh to birth TWO children. I had a WHOLE PERSON removed from me TWICE. And I was AWAKE. Man up. Stop being a pussy”.
So the snip used to be a question. Now it’s more so a must.
He’s gonna do this. He just doesn’t know it yet. Updates coming in the future.
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That all seems so final to me – which – duh – it is. But you never know what the future will bring. God forbid life throws you a curve ball and you want to have another baby. I know there is reversal, but that doesn’t always work. One of my best girlfriends is engaged to man who has 3 kids and had a snipping shortly after his 3rd was born. He is going in for a reversal on Friday – If hubs can fly up here maybe they can do a 2 for 1 deal!
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ahahahahaha…did you really tell him that? those exact words? love it. It’s way easier for the hims to do that than for us to get our tubes tied. And after BIRTHING two babies through my va-jay-jay I really have no pity for his beans. You should see Mike walk around the boys with his hands covering his crotch though…because with the boys it’s always wrestlemania at our house. And we told Logan that Dad had something done and that him and Jack can’t jump on his lap for a while. I had to tell Logan that we don’t talk about it in public, because everytime we were out he would talk about how his Dad had something done to his privates and we couldn’t jump, hit or climb on his privates. I had to remind him that privates are not to be talked about in public. LOL
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I love your response to his whining! Allie and I have actually had this discussion as well…but surprisingly I’m on the pro-getting snipped side. Allie is unsure because she hasn’t yet fully decided that we’re done having babies.
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Becky Reply:
January 28th, 2010 at 12:44 pm
LOL yep. that’s what he gets told. he laughed when i said that though. heh.
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Men are such pussies! It is such a simple procedure for them. Geez.
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@naomi i really did tell him that. word for freakin word. i rock.
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OK, this post made me laugh. A lot. Thank you. Do you read Crissy (http://crissyspage.com)? She can be pretty crude sometimes, but she wrote some hilarious posts about her husband getting snipped. Head over to her website and do a search on “snip” (search is down the page a ways on the right). You might come up with some good lines for your hubs there, too. =)
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I agree with Karen. You’re young and ten years from now you may want to have another child. I had my tubes tied at 32 and by 38 I regretted it. Keep using birth control. The snip is too final. (came from vinomom)
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You know how I feel I told you on twitter. What I forgot to tell you was that I just sighned Mike up and told him that I had paid a deposite on the procedure. Also no sex if he missed the appointment until after he had it done. He went, he whined, a man touched his nuts. Now it’s over. Man up Hubs.
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Snip away! He’ll be okay. Buy a bag of frozen peas for after. I totally feel you about having kids before a certain age and then done. I had mine at 20 and 25. Now at 32, I’m gonna be young when I send them off to college. Not that I’m trying to get rid of them or anything. lol
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Tell him to suck it up Princess and stop the whining. I had it done. No biggie. It was a local and I just layed there counting ceiling tiles. There was some pain that afternoon but popped a few Advils and went to sleep for a few hours. No big deal. And I would totally do it for Jenn again. No way should you guys have to go through exhaustive surgery to get your tubes tied. There’s also a risk with that surgery and frankly, it’s painful. Tell hubby to grow some (right before they’re cut off).
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