Comments on: Marriage talk

By: Kellee

Kellee — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 20:29:29 +0000

Oh that is lovely. You look so happy I also this that it is REALLY great that you guys had several years of marriage together before starting to have children. (Right? My math is right? 11 1/2 years – 7? ) To cement that bond and really strengthen what exists between the two of you before the stress and pressure of a family happens. I wish more people did that. It’s so smart.
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By: pamela

pamela — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 15:02:06 +0000

I love this picture. Look how happy you are. It shows by how radiant your face is! either that.. or you got it on in the car LOL
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By: Amanda (Garibay Soup)

Amanda (Garibay Soup) — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 05:14:00 +0000

Becky, you are a doll! We STILL have Ella in between us… and she’s 2 1/2! I’m so ready to get her out of my bed!
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By: Lu

Lu — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 13:10:01 +0000

Awe Becky I just love you guys. I know if we lived remotely near each other we would so hang out. You guys remind me SO MUCH of Mike and I. Loving each other and being IN LOVE with each other is something not everyone in this world gets. We are very lucky in that respect. Love this. xo

By: Becky

Becky — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 13:03:30 +0000

You know how much he loves you and point. Seriously. You, Point, Cat and Chris…you are OUR people. He misses y’all just like I do and talks about going to Reno all the time so we can see both of you. Too bad we can’t go anytime soon. But yes, it’s real. He pisses me off and annoys me and I’m sure he gets sick of me…but at the end of the day, it’s us. Me and him. Like it has been for years now. LOVE YOU!

By: jennster

jennster — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 23:09:42 +0000

this is the best fucking post ever!!!! and um, GREAT PIC! i freaking love it and it makes me miss you both sooooooooooooooooooo much!!!!!! (husband swapping won’t ruin a marriage right??)

i love that while you and the man have a great relationship, you aren’t afraid to admit that it isn’t perfect.. or say that you guys NEVER fight, or unrealistic shit like that. we had a “friend” at the forum who always claimed that her relationship was blissful 24/7.. never any issues, never any name calling, never anything negative. and she did that in a way that it made other people feel bad, or stupid for having a relationship that HAD issues. and it was a lie. butshe liked that people thought her man was 100% respectful of her and her views/friends/etc all the time.

i think it’s important that people like and respect your relationship and marriage, but also can see that it’s real. and that of course there are issues. of course you guys fight. of course there is shit “wrong” but that doesn’t make it bad. and it doesn’t make it not okay. it makes it a fucking marriage. and you work through it. and you love through it. and that is what makes a relationship healthy.

if you and the man ever split up, i’m marrying you both.
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By: Miss

Miss — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:48:09 +0000

Love this. It’s never ever a bad thing to lose a few hours to reconnect with someone you love.
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By: Becky

Becky — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:22:27 +0000

i actually sent her a LONG email explaining it LOL

By: Tricia (irishsamom)

Tricia (irishsamom) — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 20:31:05 +0000

I love this post Becky. It reminds me of exactly what marriage is about. And how I always felt about it too. I disagree with some of your commenters though, in that sometimes no matter how much you put into it, the other partner may not be in it for the long haul. I always thought my husband was, but it turned out differently. It doesn’t mean I didn’t pour my heart and soul into it for almost fourteen years and no matter how hard things got (and they did), I never lost hope or faith in it, because I believe with all my heart it’s forever. Unfortunately, he didn’t feel that way any more and left, but I would never had made that choice had I been given one.

I like the way you point out that it’s hard work. Because it is. It’s constant work and I think that’s what makes it sacred. I’m glad you got to talk. It’s so hard when you have little ones and you need to remind yourself that those things are so important to the survival of a strong relationship.

I’m really happy for you that you have the gift of someone who takes it as seriously as you do. Who loves you and is in love with you. It’s a precious gift that you have. I didn’t realise how precious, till I lost it. I admire you for being so strong together. Your girls are lucky. They truly are.
Thanks for this post, it made me feel better about how hard I worked at my marriage.

Tricia : ) x
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By: Issa

Issa — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 20:01:16 +0000

Thought I’d answer this one.

Depends on the kid. My first two didn’t sleep with me. My youngest (nearly 18 months) isn’t a great sleeper, so a lot of nights he does sleep with me. Saves me from getting up with him and then having to put him back down, which in turn keeps my older two awake.
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