I don’t talk about Hubs much on here because of his job. I used to a lot more but since he’s taken on a more stealthy role at work I’ve had to kind of eliminate him from here. I don’t post pictures of him really. I don’t really talk much about him period. BUT he’s here. You can trust me on that one. He’s around. He’s fantastic. He’s the love of my life.

He’s also SUPER hot. My friends that have seen him can vouch for that. I like to tell him that I think that about him. This past weekend we had a date night. It was a LONG time coming. I was so super excited. We dressed up in nice shirts and as we all loaded in the car to take the girls to his mom’s house, I told him “Well hello handsome” as he sat in his seat. Immediately Hannah piped up in the back. “MOM! Don’t say that stuff around me!”

Which prompted this tweet:

So I got to thinking. For years Hannah was so jealous of me when it came to Hubs. I couldn’t sit in his lap or even hug him without her running over to break us up. He was HER daddy. She was NOT going to share.

They’ve always had a bond I was jealous of, to be honest. Yes, I’m her mother and that is something no one else can be. But he’s her father. And THAT was something that I could never be. But through my occassional jealousy I moreso felt happy. And grateful. My dad wasn’t a huge presence in my life. He didn’t take the time that Hubs does with the girls. My dad wasn’t someone that I wasn’t willing to share with anyone. Maybe now, yes. But back when he was alive…before I realized that I realized, it wasn’t that way. And I prayed and begged God to send me a man that WOULD be that way with my babies…especially if I did have girls. Having an involved dad as a girl/woman….it’s so important. I didn’t have that. My girls do.

So Hannah’s comment from the backseat made us laugh. And made me think about how she’s growing up. Yes, Hubs is still someone big in her life. But now she’s willing to share. She doesn’t mind if she sees us kiss. She’s ok with Hubs giving Livie attention. I think Livie coming is what actually changed how she viewed his relationships with other people. She had to grow up a lot after she became a big sister. She had to learn to share him. And since she had to share him with Livie, she was ok with sharing him with me. To hear her be grossed out though about me saying that comment? Oh man, it made me think of a big girl. A 11 year old girl who’s mortified if her parents are around her and her friends, let alone if they hugged or *GASP* even kissed in front of her and her friends. We are headed that way folks. THOSE years. The years I dread. The years when I’m not cool anymore. The years when in her eyes, Hubs will be hovering too much when before it was fun. So I’m soaking in the last few years before she turns into a “tween”. And I’m sure Hubs is too.

In the meantime, we have this little girl who’s got her dad wrapped around her finger too.

She was only a few months old here. Even then, she knew what was what. We know we’ve got at least 6 more good years of thinking we are awesome.

Because we are.